Re: 250k or 500k for JB and PG-esque humbuckers?
Keep in mind that when people talk about 250k versus 500k and "turning down a knob", they usually mean "turning down the volume knob", not the tone knob, which is very much not the same thing. When you turn down the volume knob you're not just increases the load, you're putting resistance between the positive lead and the pickups, which increases the overall resistance / impedance of the circuit, but when you turn down the tone knob the load drops but there is no added resistance in series with the pickup, same as if you switch between 250k and 500k pots.
You can see from the frequency charts that the tone knob load increase is doing the same thing as a pot value load increase, and so I'd be skeptical of claims that anyone can hear that difference. The reason you might like a 250k pot better than a turned down tone knob is because when you plug a 250k pot guitar into an amp, you tweak the EQ kbobs on the amp so that it sounds good with all the guitar's knobs at 10. When you plug in a guitar with 500k pots, again, you set the amp to sound good with all the knobs at 10, which probably means less treble since you don't need as much of it with 500ks, so now when you turn down the tone know, your amp is still set up for the knobs to be at 10 with 500k, where you had set the treble lower, so now the tone is darker than what you'd have expected with 250k pots. And that's probably where the "psycho acoustic" business comes from, where you know something is different, but you can't put your finger on what. Does that make sense?