Re: stainless steal frets
I have one Indian Rosewood Warmoth neck with Stainless Steel frets and one Warmoth Wenge neck with a Ziricote fretboard that has gold frets.
I love the SS frets for rock, blues and anything else I play with insane bends. I do not find the frets to be too bright at all and that's with Alnico II Pros. I like these frets, they do feel smooth like glass and they sound articulate! I like the idea of having frets that won't wear!
The gold frets? They are a little warmer in tone, great for jazz at the same time but who knows, maybe it's the chambered korina body. I did have the neck on a MIM Strat years ago and it sounded great there too, but not as jazzy, more vintage. They wear nice and slow and kind of have a real vintage feel to them, they don't really look gold from a distance but when you get close you can see the gold.
IMO, they were both worth it!