I am wiring up a pickguard for the first time and I am using a push/pull for the tone and the tabs make it so the pot doesn't sit flush on the pickguard, is it safe to carefully bend them away?
You can cut them off. Or bend them. Sometimes they help contact the ground plane of what they are installed to, but if your pickguard isn't shielded, they don't do anything.
yeah, bending them over is fine, but they easily break off. either way, not a big deal. i usually take em off cause they are in the way, every once in a while they are useful though