Re: My bands third demo if anyones interested...
Mr. Low,
Please turn up the vocals so I can understand what you're trying to tell me and turn down the guitars...still.

In all seriousness I know you're working with a handicap not having monitors so try and A/B your mix while you're working on it with other pro recordings. And, don't be so self-conscious about the vocals they are what will sell the song not the guitars.
Yeah man...I have been A/Bing it with pro recordings, that I like...And on every stereo I've listened to it on, this last mix sounds really good to me, and everyone else I've asked (mostly non-musicians that are more focused on vocals than music, like the average person). If the vocals were any louder, it'd sound like it was mixed by someone wanting to make Pop records. Everyone else I've talked to agree's that the vocals are at a good level now. Did you listen to the last mix I uploaded? Maybe it just doesn't sound right on computer speakers? I think it sounds ****ty on lap top speakers, but I think all music sounds ****ty on laptop speakers. haha.
At this point I'm not that I'm self conscious of my voice really...After getting lots of compliments lately, I don't feel like a retard for sounding like I do, not most the time at least.
I think maybe what I think of as good sounding Pro-mixes, might not be the same as what your thinking of? I've been a/bing stuff with Mellon Collie Pumpkins, Downward NIN, Anti-Christ Manson, Disintegration Cure, and Hunky Dory Bowie...I'm not trying to do that ultra modern "All I can hear is Vocals and drums" sound. Just trying to make it sound good for anyone listening to it, but still sound decent to me. If that makes sense...
But...Feel free to offer to do my mixing for me, haha. I'd be more than happy to let anyone that can get better results do this stuff for me. haha. Mixing is my least favorite part of the whole process.