Re: The Well #14 - Welcome to WahWah World!
Crikey Geoff, I want to ask all kind of things after reading this well!
But really, how have you managed to stay so down to earth and normal with the musician's lifestyle? It seems like a whole different world to coming home from the office at 6pm and dumping your keys on the side.
I think the best way I can answer that is to start by telling you my initial motivations for wanting to be a musician. They were, roughly in this order.
1. To get laid.
2. To do something other than work in an office.
3. To pursue my love of music.
4. To be famous.
5. To make some cash.
One by one, and for different reasons, each of those proved themselves to be empty, except for No. 3. I got laid quite a few times, but I also lost a good one who was important to me, due in part to me being away on the road so much. I got to do something other than work in an office, but it didn't mean that I wouldn't have any responsibility. I didn't get famous like a celebrity, but I had a taste of being in a band that were getting lots of airplay and doing videos and interviews. It was bloody hard work. I've also known and worked with some people who would be called celebrities here, and they get hounded everywhere they go. I've made some cash, and I've spent some cash, just like everybody else.
I have had glimpses of the illusion of glamour associated with the lifestyle, but they have nothing to sustain us that is lasting. And I've gone from those illusions to the realities of having to do corporate gigs in a suit just to survive and support my family and my son, and then back to the illusions again. Throughout that process, something else started to emerge that did seem to have some kind of meaning and substance, the concept of service that I have touched on elsewhere here. When I consider what I do to simply be another form of service, it all falls into place. But part of that realization is that just about everybody provides some form of service. I'm determined to be honest with myself, and therefore I can only come to the conclusion that the nature of the service, or the form that it takes, is of no consequence, so there's really no difference between a good plumber and a good guitarist, other than the form that their service takes.
The state of our consciousness is infinitely more important than what we do. The big-shot Rock Star who treats people like $hit is really just a spoilt child who has not yet learnt that his ego is an illusion. Some of the most talented people I have met have been quiet, gentle souls, who's egos have been filled and emptied out enough times for them to realize that they are merely an illusion, and that what is real is the state of their being, which does not equate with whether or not they are rich, famous or successful.
These are some of the elements that have kept me grounded. There is no "specialness." Either we are all special, or none of us is, take your pick. So I just do what I do, just as you do, and neither is greater or lesser in any way. They may be different, but that's just one of the factors that makes life more interesting.
Cheers.................................wahwah