Re: Wasting time on getting 'your tone' instead of finding yourself as a player
I think there needs to be a balance with it.
If you want great tone, there's nothing wrong with searching for it. There is so much out there that it will take a while before someone knows what will work exactly for them. Things would be simple if it was one or two variables, but I mean you have different types of tubes, cables, amps, cabinets, speakers, pickups, woods, electrical components and strings that all impact the tone one way or another.
I see this as a cheaper investment than say automobiles. I see people shelling out ridiculous amounts of money on turbos, new engines, etc. There are always those collectors that need the 300 grand cars. I don't see a boutique amplifier or guitar around 2 grand as being silly in comparison.
There will always be collectors of guitars. Those doctors, CEOs, or lawyers that love the history of guitars and have a passion for collecting different guitars.
As players, who cares what route we go to get what helps us write our own music? Originally, I felt like crap buying gear I didn't feel I measured up to. Through time, I've been able to concentrate more on the music because my tone was fitting what I've been looking for. I found it important and others do too if they're looking at this forum. If you're happy with a Bandmaster and a strat and don't find any limitation to what you're doing, then that's really great and I'm happy for you

. However, if I want Santana/Robben Ford one second, U2 one second, and Black Crowes/Goo Goo Dolls another, I don't think I'm stupid for looking for it

Different strokes for different folks.
Different tones bring out different things in a player. With the right tone, I tend to bring out fusion or jazz, with another, rock and roll etc. I like writing on an acoustic, but sometimes I feel it's easier to write something in your head when you're matching the tone exactly (if I hear distortion in my head for the chorus and clean for the verse, I generally like to be writing the parts under those circumstances).