A clean fendery type amp with low output single coils tends to have the most dynamic range on tap. It's very spikey and hard to control if you're not used to the sound. Light picking vs whacking the strings hard really rewards you with very different volume levels and expressiveness. A high output humbucker paired with a very gainy amp will have the least dynamic range. It picks up every nuance of your playing because of the compression and lack of dynamic range. Light picking vs whacking the strings hard doesn't change the dynamic range very much although there is some slight change in tone . . . but string muting and clean technique become more important.
Neither is better or worse, they're just different sounds. Both require changes in technique to learn how to handle them properly.
TLDR - The amp and pickups control how dynamic your guitar will sound. The technique of a player will determine how well you're able to utilize that dynamic range to create music.