So the difficulty to play the chord and how tech the chord actually is or how advanced the music is aren't proportional. Learn how to spell every type of chord and use fingerings that are useful, not fingerings that aren't useful. Or go by what style of music you're focusing on and what type of chords that music uses. As you can see, you can play tech chordal music without spanning your fingers at all. From the jazz guitar forum:
What's a good resource to learn how to do this? Like what's a good book I could read where I could be able to see a set of notes and say "ah yes, an Emaj9sus4" or "Hmm, a minor chord sounds good here because the minor third interacts with the previous chord in *this* way"