I agree man, it is about the music. Personally, as I havn't made this clear since starting this thread, I am into the concept of ''loved'' instruments. What I mean by this is that I buy guitars new, with no abuse on them, and then play them normally under which ever condition comes my way. What happens to the guitar is then just a consequence of me using that tool to make music.
This applies to all my guitars, including my PRS. She's starting to have a few marks from my pick during intense shows, and I'm pretty sure she has a few little nicks near the bottom. Eventually the finish will start to dull where my arm is rubbing against it.
As far as your hate of chrome, I don't care either way. Looking at my prs at the moment, the bridge is tarnished where my hand rests on it when I palm mute. It's cool, caus when you look at the guitar overall, you can see exactly what happened when you look at the marks.
I don't believe in furniture guitars, or in relics. I believe that a guitar goes through stages, just like people. Right now my guitar looks new-ish, and eventually it's going to look old and busted, probably to the point where it will need to retire. That's the nature of guitars.
This doesn't mean I only see guitars as generic tools. I have great attachment, even emotional at this point with my PRS. I look forward to growing along with the guitar.
That is how I think relics should happen, and how I think over-baby-ing a guitar also seems strange to me. Every guitar is a story, and in my mind it's not as fun if it lies. Usually, people will tell if your guitar is a lie. But when a guitar has plenty of great stories behind it, then it becomes something special to me.