kinda bummed.

[BloodRose]

Re: kinda bummed.

Tell me the look on her face when she sees the half stack in the living room : )

Seriously she seems kinda gruff (no offense)

She'll never care, and there's no way or reason to try to make her. But like one of the posters above me said. She shouldn't be so disrespectful towards your love of music. Has she always been like that ?

when we first got together, I was singing in a metal band and she was supportive. And of my playing.. After we said I do, LOTS of things changed...

I feel that yeah, we should have our own things and support each other in it. I dont drink or get high or anything that would be "negative" in a family. (no offense to my partying bros, I used to party hard too) Matter of fact, Id like to play guitar at a church if I get better.. Her take on that is "if God gave you a calling to play in church, he'd have given you some talent." Ouch...

 

[ImmortalSix]

Re: kinda bummed.

Matter of fact, Id like to play guitar at a church if I get better.. Her take on that is "if God gave you a calling to play in church, he'd have given you some talent." Ouch...

You need to talk with her

 

[Pink Unicorn Horsey]

Re: kinda bummed.

"if God gave you a calling to play in church, he'd have given you some talent." Ouch...

What the F-word?! "Ouch" is right. People who love each other don't use caustic language. There's a lot more to this. Is there something more you need to tell us? How is the marriage outside of the music disagreement?

- Keith

 

[misterwhizzy]

Re: kinda bummed.

"if God gave you a calling to play in church, he'd have given you some talent."

Ask her why she had to go to law school if she was supposed to be a lawyer. Or if that doesn't fly, you should be a very happy man, because she only has one thing that God didn't give you... (Again, sorry if that's out of line. Going for the joke...)

 

[DankStar]

Re: kinda bummed.

+1 on talking, but out of sight is out of mind in a wife's mind. move the tape recorder to a closet or a box under a bed. pull it out when you need it and stash it back. this applies to guitars, amps, beer, comics, recording equipment, and anything else she wants to rip from your clutches.

 

[Pink Unicorn Horsey]

Re: kinda bummed.

move the tape recorder to a closet or a box under a bed. pull it out when you need it and stash it back.

Better yet, hide the tape recorder under the bed, start recording, tape a conversation of you and your wife, then post it in this thread!

 

[DankStar]

Re: kinda bummed.

Better yet, hide the tape recorder under the bed, start recording, tape a conversation of you and your wife, then post it in this thread!

hehe, or that.

 

[Razix]

Re: kinda bummed.

BloodRose... You only have one life. It is your job to find happiness in your life, and you seem to have done that. If playing guitar makes you happy, then your wife needs to respect that. You should be able to go to your house and jam away.

Secondly, what's with the insults? No one should cut another person down like that. Musicians all start off pretty terrible, it's practice that makes them good. Even on my girlfriend's worst days she wouldn't call me "talentless" (though I just might be...).

I say find a spot for your amp in the house that is unobtrusive yet convenient, and make it clear that will be where it stays. If she loves you, she'll learn to cope with a "tacky" looking amp.

Finally, if your plugging a guitar into an amp and putting your feelings on tape, you're a musician. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

 

[Pink Unicorn Horsey]

Re: kinda bummed.

If you're plugging a guitar into an amp and putting your feelings on tape, you're a musician. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

This is my favorite part of the whole thread. Well said, my friend. :friday:

 

[Wattage]

Re: kinda bummed.

There are things in life that make you a complete person regardless of your skill level or natural abilities. These things are necessary don't feel bad about them at all.

That said I have no idea where to put your gear?

I would suggest a POD (or equal) and a program for your PC or laptop like Guitar Tracks to make you're recording experience a whole lot easier though, either that or pickup a small Tascam or Zoom recorder. I like them better anyway.

 

[everdrone]

Re: kinda bummed.

ya, really easy to hide a toneport, and you dont have to hide software, buy it in cash

 

[Pink Unicorn Horsey]

Re: kinda bummed.

What ever came of this?

 

[kjrocks]

Re: kinda bummed.

If my wife rated my playing I'd have a lot less gear
Compromise is the key word, so be the polite one.

 

[Markk]

Re: kinda bummed.

It's hard to offer good advice in such a situation. I'm really in no position to say anything as my wife seems to tolerate me. Best of luck in getting this sorted out!

 

[Reload in 5]

Re: kinda bummed.

"if God gave you a calling to play in church, he'd have given you some talent."

Well, luckily nobody told me that, as I would never have started playing in Church.

I really think you need to talk about counseling. There may be things she is resentful for that you don't even realize. Or maybe some things you aren't telling us, but that's just me trying to find the other side of things that don't make sense to me.

 

[everdrone]

Re: kinda bummed.

I remember a prior thread of yours:

https://forum.seymourduncan.com/showthread.php?t=166914

seems like similar issues...

 

[BloodRose]

Re: kinda bummed.

BloodRose... You only have one life. It is your job to find happiness in your life, and you seem to have done that. If playing guitar makes you happy, then your wife needs to respect that. You should be able to go to your house and jam away.

Secondly, what's with the insults? No one should cut another person down like that. Musicians all start off pretty terrible, it's practice that makes them good. Even on my girlfriend's worst days she wouldn't call me "talentless" (though I just might be...).

I say find a spot for your amp in the house that is unobtrusive yet convenient, and make it clear that will be where it stays. If she loves you, she'll learn to cope with a "tacky" looking amp.

Finally, if your plugging a guitar into an amp and putting your feelings on tape, you're a musician. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

Thanks Bro ! The last paragraph especially..

 

[BloodRose]

Re: kinda bummed.

I remember a prior thread of yours:

https://forum.seymourduncan.com/showthread.php?t=166914

seems like similar issues...

yeah, this has been going on ever since I got a guitar again after going without for 15 years.. Its been a long road...

The update is none of my gear is in the house, so there is peace. However some is stored she is griping that its in my car and my car looks like rubbish.. Im getting it out of there as I dont want it stolen or damaged by weather..

My stereo no longer works since she had me move it, so I cant finish my recording anyhow..

Ill do like I normally do.. give her a couple of days to get over it and bring it back in...

 

[Pink Unicorn Horsey]

Re: kinda bummed.

How about getting a divorce and living happily?

 

[GoDrex]

Re: kinda bummed.

this thread is killing me