Lost my wife of 20 years...
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Phantasmagoria
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Very kind of you . ..& thanks, I hope she likes it too.
Thank you Sirion ...very nice of you, much appreciated.
v8stang289
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Man, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine.
Phantasmagoria
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Yeah, no stranger to shit happening....nor was she. We had'nt had it easy for a long time. Something like this though, it never even crossed my mind ...just sickening beyond anything I could have ever thought of or expected. I always took it for granted that we'd face everything nasty that came our way together.
My boys are indeed a huge blessing ..they are growing up right, We were both very hands-on and also tried to shield and protect them from some of the shitty circumstances we all found ourselves in. They are used to stress & crap coming their way, but again ..nothing ever prepared them for this. It's been really hard for all of us, as I said maybe even worse for them ,but they're tough & they're coping.
Thanks Dankstar. Very kind of you...
Thanks so much. Much appreciated..
Jack_TriPpEr
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My condolences. And like others have said (and probably better) try to focus your and your kids thoughts towards ones of gratitude for having had the privilege to have had such a loving and loyal ally in your corner for all those years. I know it will take time, its ok, dont feel pressure to "get thru it 2quickly". Be kind, patient and forgiving with yourselves and each other along the way.
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TwilightOdyssey
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Wow, I am terribly sorry to hear this news. I hope that you and your boys are doing as well as can be expected, what a horrible thing to have happen.
Phantasmagoria
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Definitely was'nt prepared for this. But yeah...that's what we're trying to do.
Thanks Wattage, it means a lot. Very kind of you.
Yeah, I do try and steer them towards the positives. She had such an abundance of love for them & vice versa. Our kids were our lives. They are both pretty shocked and traumatized & they need to work through that..not 'get past it', because I don't think any of us ever will, but just be able to come to terms and deal better.
Yeah, beyond horrible. There are no words to describe the miserable trauma of an experience like that. I just try to focus on her life before. Thanks for the kind words Twilight. Means a lot to us. You guy's have all been so kind.
This must be the hardest ordeal you are going through right now. As long as you and the boys are thinking of her, she will always be around guarding you like an angel.
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Just curious, cause I had my share of problems with my S as well, why home school? I am asking as a parent.
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Just curious, cause I had my share of problems with my S as well, why home school? I am asking as a parent.
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Sorry to ask, I'm not trying to be the grammer police for which i would certainly fail lol.
Are you asking him;
Why to home school? or,,,,,
Why not do home schooling?
Phantasmagoria
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Thanks for the kind words & encouragement...much appreciated. I do know she will be around if it's even vaguely possible for her to be. Regarding the homeschooling thing as I said , we were threatened by her nephew who visited us at home ..this guy was 10 years younger than my wife & she used to love him like her own child.
His exact words were "Your son's school is pretty far away. It's a long ride (in the school bus) & it's not safe, anything could happen, maybe you should be worried about that". Long story short considering the people we were dealing with,what they had done to her after her father passed and their rich, colourful history, we were worried. The little one, my youngest, never went to school. He went straight from pre-school to home-schooling.
Phantasmagoria
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Honestly, the incident I mentioned above is one of many far, far worse. it's such a sordid tale, you wouldn't believe stuff like this could happen to anyone anywhere in the world ...yet it did. I didn't say we were all given hell before lightly.
Phantasmagoria
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Guess we're doing ok all things considered, thanks for thinking about us.. Sorry to hear about your mom. Wish you & your family the strength to get through this tough time.
I took the boys out to dinner last night though none of us really felt like it. It was the first time we'd been out since she died. Ended up having a better evening/less depressing time than we expected,. We talked about her a lot, our situation & just life ..it felt almost like she was with us there.
I took the boys out to dinner last night though none of us really felt like it. It was the first time we'd been out since she died. Ended up having a better evening/less depressing time than we expected,. We talked about her a lot, our situation & just life ..it felt almost like she was with us there.
So sorry to learn about such loss, the words are failing me, really. You still have a wonderful family to lead and inspire, your boys are now more than ever looking for guidance and you will be their island where they'll always find peace and certainty. Your late wife is already proud of you. Stay strong, it's not business as usual but you're a good man and good things happen to good people. God bless you and your family and may your wonderful wife rest in peace.
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