The ignorance of some people
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bryvincent
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Re: The ignorance of some people
maybe bring your dad-in-law or the whole family and the guitar to an antique roadshow and have it appraised so that people can see it on tv how stupid he is.but you'll probably never get the guitar anymore after that though.
maybe bring your dad-in-law or the whole family and the guitar to an antique roadshow and have it appraised so that people can see it on tv how stupid he is.but you'll probably never get the guitar anymore after that though.
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Xeromus
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Re: The ignorance of some people
I'd be pulling my hair out if I were in your situation. They obviously don't pay attention to it, and you could probably swap it with an estaban and they won't know the difference. Just beat it up a little.
Here's why it's difficult:
1. A great injustice is being done to a historic instrument. I think some intervention is necessary. These are the type of people would would drive a vintage corvette through the woods.
2. Could cause family and marriage problems. Is it really worth it? Would they have you arrested, etc? You might just want to forget it.
3. Stealing is wrong and I'm strongly opposed to it for any reason. But it almost seems like this one needs to be "saved". I just don't know what to suggest.
I'd be pulling my hair out if I were in your situation. They obviously don't pay attention to it, and you could probably swap it with an estaban and they won't know the difference. Just beat it up a little.
Here's why it's difficult:
1. A great injustice is being done to a historic instrument. I think some intervention is necessary. These are the type of people would would drive a vintage corvette through the woods.
2. Could cause family and marriage problems. Is it really worth it? Would they have you arrested, etc? You might just want to forget it.
3. Stealing is wrong and I'm strongly opposed to it for any reason. But it almost seems like this one needs to be "saved". I just don't know what to suggest.
Re: The ignorance of some people
The problem with getting it fixed is you'd be giving it right back to the people who mistreated and abused it in the first place. That's money down the drain. I'd ask my wife to move it somewhere out of sight, and I'd try to forget it even exists. And someday, a Franklin will inherit a worthless pile of old wood, with its very own case.
You said you broke up with her and then got back together and then married. I think it's a trust issue. They don't think you’re in it for the long haul. This is just my opinion about people I have never met, but that is my first impression.
I think the bigger deal you make about it, the more times you ask about it, the more times you even mention it, the less likely you are of ever getting it. Imagine Mom and Pop-in-law saying "Well he got our daughter, but I'll be damn if he's getting that guitar!"
I'd call her Mrs. Franklin as well. I'd tell her I'm not comfortable calling her Mom. I would want to keep some emotional distance from her family. And it’s a way of saying, “I’m not totally comfortable with you.”
In the end, it might be a terrible waste, but it is still just a guitar. I have an uncle who would rather let my Grandfather's tractor sit and rust than sell it to me. I even offered him unlimited use once I got it running. What a deal for him, he gets money upfront (the purchase price), then gets to use it without having to pay for the maintenance. He'd have to be a fool to turn that down, but he did. And, unfortunately, he is blood.
So in the end I just had to get over it. After all its just stuff. There are other Martins out there and there are other Ford 2N tractors out there. I may get it when he dies. He only speaks to one of his three children and he has completely disowned the only one who might be interested in it. If I get it, great. Well maybe not great. It hasn’t run in 15 years and the repairs might cost more than it’s worth; which is what I fear may be the case with the Martin. If I don’t get it, well you can’t lose what you never had.
Oh, and stealing it, even with the best intentions, will only lead to more bad will between you and her family.
Don't let them make their problems your problems. And anyone who mistreats a Martin like that has problems.
ThThThThThThThat’s All Folks!
Dr. Steve (Ph. D. in Swing) has left the building.
The problem with getting it fixed is you'd be giving it right back to the people who mistreated and abused it in the first place. That's money down the drain. I'd ask my wife to move it somewhere out of sight, and I'd try to forget it even exists. And someday, a Franklin will inherit a worthless pile of old wood, with its very own case.
You said you broke up with her and then got back together and then married. I think it's a trust issue. They don't think you’re in it for the long haul. This is just my opinion about people I have never met, but that is my first impression.
I think the bigger deal you make about it, the more times you ask about it, the more times you even mention it, the less likely you are of ever getting it. Imagine Mom and Pop-in-law saying "Well he got our daughter, but I'll be damn if he's getting that guitar!"
I'd call her Mrs. Franklin as well. I'd tell her I'm not comfortable calling her Mom. I would want to keep some emotional distance from her family. And it’s a way of saying, “I’m not totally comfortable with you.”
In the end, it might be a terrible waste, but it is still just a guitar. I have an uncle who would rather let my Grandfather's tractor sit and rust than sell it to me. I even offered him unlimited use once I got it running. What a deal for him, he gets money upfront (the purchase price), then gets to use it without having to pay for the maintenance. He'd have to be a fool to turn that down, but he did. And, unfortunately, he is blood.
So in the end I just had to get over it. After all its just stuff. There are other Martins out there and there are other Ford 2N tractors out there. I may get it when he dies. He only speaks to one of his three children and he has completely disowned the only one who might be interested in it. If I get it, great. Well maybe not great. It hasn’t run in 15 years and the repairs might cost more than it’s worth; which is what I fear may be the case with the Martin. If I don’t get it, well you can’t lose what you never had.
Oh, and stealing it, even with the best intentions, will only lead to more bad will between you and her family.
Don't let them make their problems your problems. And anyone who mistreats a Martin like that has problems.
ThThThThThThThat’s All Folks!
Dr. Steve (Ph. D. in Swing) has left the building.
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Edgecrusher
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Re: The ignorance of some people
I think at this point all I would try and do is minimize any further damage... See if you cant get your wife to take and stash it in some dark recess of the house where hopefully your inlaws will forget about it and it can be relativly protected from the elements... Sorry but this this whole situation is just messed up...
I think at this point all I would try and do is minimize any further damage... See if you cant get your wife to take and stash it in some dark recess of the house where hopefully your inlaws will forget about it and it can be relativly protected from the elements... Sorry but this this whole situation is just messed up...
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Forbes
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Re: The ignorance of some people
Ive never heard better advice on this forum.
joelap said:
Ive never heard better advice on this forum.
